When we first started our project, we had tremendous support from all our close friends and family. Our loved ones wanted to see us pursue our passions, but they were also worried that we might get hurt along the way. We never for a moment, mulled over any negative implications that a project like this could bring. At the start of any project, when you’re focused on crossing all your t’s and dotting your i’s and going through your checklists with gusto, it leaves very little space in your mind to think about what could go wrong.
Because surely working towards a social movement in our country during a time where it’s needed the most cannot make anyone unhappy, right?
We live in an era where strewing discord and sparking altercations has become a lifestyle for some. Trolls are found on every corner on the internet. In fact, this post might not be a superb idea because what these trolls relish, is an emotional response to their behaviour. But at feminismindia, with some mental gymnastics, we managed to convert a troll and bring them to the brighter side, where we don’t have cookies, we have enlightenment!
When your beliefs are set in stone about any concept, it clouds your perspective on how other members of society might see the same concept through a different lens. Some of our beliefs are filtered down to such an extent, that we forget to zoom out and forget that we once also started from a point of zero knowledge. When we had to deal with the trolls we faced, naturally, we were frustrated and despondent to some extent. Our first reaction was "why do men think it’s okay to ask us if we can even lick a dick right"? Or why do some men still believe that "women shouldn’t be on facebook running a website and should be in the kitchen instead"?
But being angry would take us nowhere because we don’t want to shun everyone against our ideas. What if out of a hundred people who troll us, we could enlighten one person? That in itself is a huge victory and so that’s exactly what we did:
We received this message along with the other of dozens we get every day. We didn't react, except just poked a bit of fun:
But then we saw an opportunity to clear a very common misconception - the very definition of feminism:
Men have all the right to complain if the idea of feminism is abused. Our 'troll' raised a very good point here. A fallacy he would continue to live with if we hadn't put in the tiny effort we did when we received our first message.
But this is where as educators, we have to empathize. How would you feel if you were a man in this situation? Why have some people started the #NotAllMen movement?
And so we replied and spoke to 'Batman' about how our views on feminism and equality are very different to the negative connotations many people associate it with. Here are some snippets:
and with the power of patience, empathy, and hope, Batman came to the bright side!
It's easy to be angry, it's even easier to label everyone else as ignorant, but it's twice as hard to empathize and educate.
A fifth-year medical student successfully placing my stethoscope the wrong way around every day. I'm a podcaster, sports enthusiast and I guess, a feminist.